Why Cognitive Dissonance is Effing Up Your Manifesting


Imagine for a moment that you’re driving and you pull up to an intersection where the traffic light is both red and green at the same time.

What do you do?

Green indicates go, but… There’s also the red which clearly means stop…

Likely you will sit at this intersection for a while in a very confused state. You will sit there doing nothing until you get a clear signal on what to do.

NEWSFLASH! The Universe, your Higher Self, and your Spirit Guides are no different from you. If they’re getting mixed signals on what you want from you, then you can bet they’re going to be able to do a whole lot of nothing with that too.

So if you ever find yourself wondering, “Why isn’t this happening for me?” Check yourself – Are you sending out mixed messages?

Getting out of cognitive dissonance requires a deep level of honesty with yourself, because it typically happens when you’re “shoulding” yourself into wanting something and/or you have two very opposing feelings about something.

In both cases there will be one way that is true for you and one that is not. And it’s up to you to figure out which is which so you can get moving again.

When faced with this task it’s helpful to ask yourself the following the questions:

  1. If I’m honest with myself, what do I really want and why?
  2. When I think about wanting to do Option A – can I identify any external influences at play? Is this someone else’s idea or plan that I’m just going along with?
  3. Which of the two options would truly serve me and my highest good?
  4. Is either option something I just feel I should do and am not actually passionate about?

Another helpful activity is to close your eyes, put your hands over your heart, and then bring each option into your thoughts. Observe at a feeling level if there’s an expansion in your heart area or a contraction.

Expansion indicates the option is aligned to you and good for you, and contraction indicates it’s not.

Journalling can also help : )

The point is to get past all the noise, down to your core, down to what truly resonates for you, and then own that.

Once you get your answer, you need to stick to it. The wishy washy-ness was what got you stuck in the first place – so do not go back there!

This requires resolve and stick-to-it-ive-ness. Because there’s a good chance you will be tempted to waffle again. If you find yourself contemplating waffling, simply say to yourself – “I eat waffles for breakfast.” Then revisit the reasons you feel one option is best again to really cement in your resolve.

Your ego may tempt you by putting whipped cream on the waffles in the form of “what if” scenarios and even a gut wrenching dread that you’ve made the “wrong” decision and will regret it.

Recognizing this as an ego trick is the first step. Second step is knowing that there is no right and wrong, only your best made choice in this moment.

As you work more with this and start to see happy results and life progress, you’ll be able to give your ego’s tricks less and less attention.

And of course the glorious result of all this – the making up your mind in one clear direction and setting one clear intention – is that the Universe, your Higher Self and your Spirit Guides will be able to help you out now!

Manifestation = back on track.

But it all starts with you. Make no mistake. You choose red or you choose green – you can’t have it both ways : )

In love, light and truth,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover their blocks, what they truly want, and get their soul sparkle for life back. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

2 thoughts on “Why Cognitive Dissonance is Effing Up Your Manifesting

  1. Awesome!
    I like the simple exercise too…
    I think the indeciseveness, definitely comes from the inability to trust ones self in the choices one makes, and like you said, doing what we think we “should” do. Especially when weve been surrounded by dominant structures (people, parents, things) that have strict opinions of us.
    Thankyou Twyla🌼

    1. Good good! Happy you like the exercises Kimberlie : ) Agreed re: indecisiveness coming from lack of self trust, and the lack of self trust coming from dominant people and structures in our lives so we were never encouraged to trust ourselves and our judgment. Learning to trust our choices is like learning to trust ourselves to walk at first. We will fall, and that’s part of the process. But we keep getting up and trying again till we get the hang of it. It just takes time, practice and patience <3

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