Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I can tell the most frustrating aspect of manifesting is detachment.
You’re telling me that I’m supposed to want to manifest something, but then not care if I manifest it?
That seems like one big fat paradox and loads of crap to me.
This is how some people feel about manifesting. However, while pondering it last evening in relation to my upcoming meeting with a potential future purveyor of my orgonite pyramids, some truths became very evident.
The reason it is so important to completely detach from the “what” of what the object of your manifesting might look like is this: In doing so you are closing yourself off to the potential of something better, and your neediness actually repels the object of your desire.
Is there any way to know what that something better may look like from your current vantage point? NO. So don’t even try.
Let’s break this down further and look at all the benefits of practicing detachment in manifesting.
- Number 1: Detachment does not mean you don’t care. Care up a storm! But care about the end result, not the middle stuff. I will do my best and try my best and prepare for my upcoming meeting with this business owner to the best of my abilities. I care a ton about this meeting. But if it doesn’t pan out… well ok I will feel a little gutted probably, but I’ll also be able to pull myself back together and keep on keeping on.
- Number 2: If your first attempt doesn’t pan out, then YAY! You’ve got everything prepared to do it again PLUS you’ve likely learned a few things about what not to do next time and you’re no longer green in the gills.Note: Doing Number 2 means that you have to re-frame what is seen by typical people as “failure”. There’s no such thing as failure, just many learning lessons of what not to do. I think some famous person said something similar to that sometime in the past.
- Number 3: If you’ve embraced Number 1 and Number 2 you will act as calm as a cucumber when you go into “the situation” (I use quotation marks because “the situation” will differ but feel equally as immensely important for everyone). You will not give off that icky gicky “I need this or I will literally die” vibe. That’s not attractive. Nobody likes that. And energetically it’s like manifesting repellent.
I know, I know, I’ve made it sound intellectually very easy to embrace detachment and I fully acknowledge that living and doing it is a whole ‘nother thing. BUT…
If you do start to embrace detachment while manifesting then little by little it will get easier.
Just like getting back to running after 2 months off was painful and my pathetic muscle strength and cardio was embarrassing to myself. But after 3 weeks, oh the glorious 3 week mark! The endorphins were flowing once again and my muscles and cardio were no longer pathetic.
I’m not saying that after 3 weeks of practicing detachment in manifesting you will be a master and love every minute of it. I am saying that you will get more in the flow, neuropathways will begin to form that will begin to make things easier.
Allow that dangling carrot to motivate you. As well as the carrot of manifesting ultimately being more successful and rewarding.
And remember – no matter what happens, either way you will be ok. Take a deep breath and repeat that to yourself several times.
Perhaps you have already tried detachment in manifesting. Any interesting results to share? Comment below!
Love and Light,
Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!