Crack is OK

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I’m talking about cracks in crystals and in you – I am not talking about any other type of crack, obviously.

Please direct your attention to the picture of my amazing new smokey quartz pyramid. Beautiful right?

Well… there was a time in my life when I would have said NO. Reject! Look at the cracks in it – hideous!

In fact, that is what I literally did in 2011 when I bought my first energetically charged crystal bracelet from a kind healer lady in Calgary.

It was the fall, Sang had come out the other side of chemo, radiation and surgery and things were finally looking up. I decided to treat myself to a beautiful crystal bracelet.

When I got the bracelet I carefully inspected every last inch of every last crystal and – gasp – found several cracks. What the ef! I paid good money for this bracelet and so it should be crack free!

Is what I thought at the time.

I even went so far as to contact the lady who made it and meet up with her to show her the imperfections because I wanted a completely perfect one.

Such a metaphor for my mindset and world view 7 years ago when external perfection was of utmost importance to me. Oh silly Twyla….

During our meeting the dear bracelet creator lady patiently explained to me that there are no bracelets that are completely crack free. They all have cracks.

Cracks are a part of life. None of us is crack free and many of us have so many cracks on the inside we try to make our external selves that we present to the world perfect so no one knows about our imperfections.

It’s painful to be seen for the cracked beings we really are, until….

We are able to embrace our cracks and do vulnerability!

Oh vulnerability, how I hated you until Sang died and I realized I could survive the worst of the worst of what life could throw at me. Try to break me, you won’t succeed.

Before I used to think I could and had to protect myself. WRONG. That’s not strength, that’s living in fear.

Strength is being real, being seen for every last crack you have – plus all the good stuff too 😊 And I’m not saying go show your cracks to every last person, that’s not the point.

The point is not to pretend you’re something that nobody is.

That was confusing, let’s try that again: The point is to move from your fantasy illusory world where “perfect” people exist (and is what you strive for) into actual reality where nobody is perfect.

Stop lying to yourself.

Let go of the ridiculous crack free standards you hold for yourself.

Embrace your cracks – they make you YOU.

Just like my new beautiful smokey quartz crystal pyramid – you can still see the amazing unique rainbow refractions at the same time as you see the cracks. The cracks don’t negate the beauty.

Need help bringing in more self-love and acceptance? A Soul Blueprint clearing can really support you in understanding and loving your cracks.

Click on This Link to apply for a Clarity Call and let’s talk about what you’ve got going on and what beautiful support would look like for you 💖

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching & Orgonite. She’s a Soul Clarity Coach who offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

How to Talk Your Ego Out of a Tantrum

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Oh yes ego – you would love it if I never changed, never ventured out into “scary” new territory, and just played it safe till I died.

But I’m not wired that way. Not even close.

My life has been one of jumping into new situations and countries and levels of consciousness.

Very recently I signed up for and began studying Soul Realignment Level 3. My teacher Andrrea Hess calls it the super geeky ninja level Akashic Record reading level!

It’s been 4 years since I completed Soul Realignment Level 2, mind you, I did complete the Soul Manifesting Blueprint and Reading the Future in the Akashic Records programs since then too…

But back to the main point – it’s been 4 years since I did Level 2! I never felt like I even wanted to do Level 3 at all ever, lol.

And then…. I guess I finally reached the point where I yearned for more in depth knowledge. I wanted to go deeper. How does the Soul Blueprint exactly work? What other Master Guides are available to me? What deeper levels of Soul work can I offer my clients?

The curiosity and desire was there!

This is a key important piece – if you have the desire and you can tell it comes from a Soul inspired place, that is gold. That means you’re meant for it.

However, when I started working through the Level 3 lessons, that’s when my ego started freaking the ef out.

This happened when I did Level 1 and when I did Level 2, so now I’m onto it. And even though these ego tantrums do distract me and make it hard to push on, just the knowing helps a lot.

Piece 1 is the enthusiastic desire for the change or learning, then piece 2 is the ego freaking out.

So my questions for you are:

  • Do you currently know or can you identify your ego’s “defense” / distraction tactics?
  • What can you do to ease your ego through the transition so you can keep moving forward?

For me, my ego goes into hyper skeptic and critic mode. It finds a way to criticize everything about the new content I’m learning and then slaps on a thick layer of doubt about its validity.

My ego would love it if I threw all the lessons in the trash and never looked at them again.

A brilliant life coach I worked with years ago taught me that a way to deal with ego tantrums is to placate it. Tell your ego that it will be ok. You’re just going to try this out and see what happens.

This is piece 3 on the path of growth into new territory – getting your ego on board for the ride.

There’s no need to get healing work done for blocks, force your way forward, or spin off into trying to fix or deal with the fears.

Gentleness is the best tactic.

Tell your ego that you’ve done this before. You’ve made leaps in learning and big changes and yes they were new and scary but now they’re normal. Just like this present newness will in turn become normal too.

Cheers to big growth!

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!