Crack is OK

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I’m talking about cracks in crystals and in you – I am not talking about any other type of crack, obviously.

Please direct your attention to the picture of my amazing new smokey quartz pyramid. Beautiful right?

Well… there was a time in my life when I would have said NO. Reject! Look at the cracks in it – hideous!

In fact, that is what I literally did in 2011 when I bought my first energetically charged crystal bracelet from a kind healer lady in Calgary.

It was the fall, Sang had come out the other side of chemo, radiation and surgery and things were finally looking up. I decided to treat myself to a beautiful crystal bracelet.

When I got the bracelet I carefully inspected every last inch of every last crystal and – gasp – found several cracks. What the ef! I paid good money for this bracelet and so it should be crack free!

Is what I thought at the time.

I even went so far as to contact the lady who made it and meet up with her to show her the imperfections because I wanted a completely perfect one.

Such a metaphor for my mindset and world view 7 years ago when external perfection was of utmost importance to me. Oh silly Twyla….

During our meeting the dear bracelet creator lady patiently explained to me that there are no bracelets that are completely crack free. They all have cracks.

Cracks are a part of life. None of us is crack free and many of us have so many cracks on the inside we try to make our external selves that we present to the world perfect so no one knows about our imperfections.

It’s painful to be seen for the cracked beings we really are, until….

We are able to embrace our cracks and do vulnerability!

Oh vulnerability, how I hated you until Sang died and I realized I could survive the worst of the worst of what life could throw at me. Try to break me, you won’t succeed.

Before I used to think I could and had to protect myself. WRONG. That’s not strength, that’s living in fear.

Strength is being real, being seen for every last crack you have – plus all the good stuff too 😊 And I’m not saying go show your cracks to every last person, that’s not the point.

The point is not to pretend you’re something that nobody is.

That was confusing, let’s try that again: The point is to move from your fantasy illusory world where “perfect” people exist (and is what you strive for) into actual reality where nobody is perfect.

Stop lying to yourself.

Let go of the ridiculous crack free standards you hold for yourself.

Embrace your cracks – they make you YOU.

Just like my new beautiful smokey quartz crystal pyramid – you can still see the amazing unique rainbow refractions at the same time as you see the cracks. The cracks don’t negate the beauty.

Need help bringing in more self-love and acceptance? A Soul Blueprint clearing can really support you in understanding and loving your cracks.

Click on This Link to apply for a Clarity Call and let’s talk about what you’ve got going on and what beautiful support would look like for you 💖

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching & Orgonite. She’s a Soul Clarity Coach who offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Manifesting & the Detachment Paradox Solved

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Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I can tell the most frustrating aspect of manifesting is detachment.

You’re telling me that I’m supposed to want to manifest something, but then not care if I manifest it?

That seems like one big fat paradox and loads of crap to me.

This is how some people feel about manifesting. However, while pondering it last evening in relation to my upcoming meeting with a potential future purveyor of my orgonite pyramids,  some truths became very evident.

The reason it is so important to completely detach from the “what” of what the object of your manifesting might look like is this: In doing so you are closing yourself off to the potential of something better, and your neediness actually repels the object of your desire.

Is there any way to know what that something better may look like from your current vantage point? NO. So don’t even try.

Let’s break this down further and look at all the benefits of practicing detachment in manifesting.

  • Number 1: Detachment does not mean you don’t care. Care up a storm! But care about the end result, not the middle stuff. I will do my best and try my best and prepare for my upcoming meeting with this business owner to the best of my abilities. I care a ton about this meeting. But if it doesn’t pan out… well ok I will feel a little gutted probably, but I’ll also be able to pull myself back together and keep on keeping on.
  • Number 2: If your first attempt doesn’t pan out, then YAY! You’ve got everything prepared to do it again PLUS you’ve likely learned a few things about what not to do next time and you’re no longer green in the gills.Note: Doing Number 2 means that you have to re-frame what is seen by typical people as “failure”. There’s no such thing as failure, just many learning lessons of what not to do. I think some famous person said something similar to that sometime in the past.
  • Number 3: If you’ve embraced Number 1 and Number 2 you will act as calm as a cucumber when you go into “the situation” (I use quotation marks because “the situation” will differ but feel equally as immensely important for everyone). You will not give off that icky gicky “I need this or I will literally die” vibe. That’s not attractive. Nobody likes that. And energetically it’s like manifesting repellent.

I know, I know, I’ve made it sound intellectually very easy to embrace detachment and I fully acknowledge that living and doing it is a whole ‘nother thing. BUT…

If you do start to embrace detachment while manifesting then little by little it will get easier.

Just like getting back to running after 2 months off was painful and my pathetic muscle strength and cardio was embarrassing to myself. But after 3 weeks, oh the glorious 3 week mark! The endorphins were flowing once again and my muscles and cardio were no longer pathetic.

I’m not saying that after 3 weeks of practicing detachment in manifesting you will be a master and love every minute of it. I am saying that you will get more in the flow, neuropathways will begin to form that will begin to make things easier.

Allow that dangling carrot to motivate you. As well as the carrot of manifesting ultimately being more successful and rewarding.

And remember – no matter what happens, either way you will be ok. Take a deep breath and repeat that to yourself several times.

Perhaps you have already tried detachment in manifesting. Any interesting results to share? Comment below!

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!