Hocus Focus: What you see is what you get

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It occurred to me today as I looked at these beautiful lilies on my kitchen table (my hubs and I are celebrating 1 year of living in San Antonio – wheee!), that I was looking at the buds and hoping they would bloom. I wasn’t looking at the beautiful flowers that were right there before my eyes, I was looking at the buds that had yet to open, thinking, “Man it will sure be great when they open and become gorgeous flowers…”

I had to stop myself because what I was doing seemed absurd! And then I realized that I do this in other areas of life too – I don’t see the fantastic things in front of me, instead, I’m hoping for some future event that will be amazing.

Literally the message I was getting was to stop and smell the flowers. Which by the way smell incredible!

Be grateful for what is right there in front of me… But sometimes for whatever crazy reason, we can’t see what’s in front of us. I guess because we’re too busy focusing on what will happen in the future. So distracting, boo… So instead of getting a wonderful present experience, I was experiencing want and lack – when I had blooming blooms right in front of my nose!!

So today’s blog post asks the question: In what area of your life are you not seeing the beauty that’s right before you? What do you have to be grateful for right now? What is it that is distracting you?

Once you figure those things out, it’s a pretty simple fix – RE-FOCUS.

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Modality Madness! How to Make Sense of it All

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Theta Healing, Soul Realignment, Reiki, Energy Scanning, Shamanism, Body Talk, Quantum Touch, NLP – the list could go on and on… So many modalities, so little time!

Some modalities are completely different from one another – Reiki and Soul Realignment have pretty much no similarities as far as I can tell. One channels Source energy and the other works with the Akashic Records. No overlap or contradictions there.

I know that Shamanism deals with soul fragmentation as does Soul Realignment, but each in its own way. I don’t actually know much about Shamanism…

But I do love constantly learning about healing modalities, and I found recently when reading my Theta Healing book that some fundamental concepts were explained differently than what I learned in Soul Realignment. And this was kind of confusing – how can both truths exist?

Soul Realignment talks about dimensions. Theta Healing talks about planes. And of course I could be wrong – so if anyone has a deeper understanding of this than I do, please let me know!

The conclusion I eventually came to for myself – for what I do – is that the most important thing is to have a clear frame of reference. So for me, that’s Soul Realignment because that’s the bulk and foundation of what I do. I do like how Theta Healing is excellent at reprogramming beliefs and doing physical healing, so that’s what I’ll use it for (and mostly for myself at this point).

I do believe there are many truths out there. Our beliefs are so powerful, and what we believe for ourselves is our reality. Which for me explains how many different healing modalities can co-exist.

The other very beautiful thing about so many modalities existing is that people have options and can choose the one that most resonates for them so they can get healing work done. I love that.

For myself, it’s very much like having a lovely variety of tools in a toolbox, knowing which tool fixes what, and using them appropriately. And also having a clearly defined belief structure so I 100% understand what I do and why and how it works.

I picked the modality that resonated the most for me, just like I picked one lunch from a choice of many today. Doesn’t make the other choices wrong, it’s just what I chose. I fully respect and love all modalities, and lunches!

Now that I think of it, I’ve had clients ask which modality they should study since they feel drawn to healing but don’t know where to start. And so the answer to that would be – whichever resonates most for you and piques your interest right now. You might study one and find you’re not in love with it, so then just go study another and possibly another till you do find the one you love : )


Musings on Massive May Milestones

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May is a big month for me. May 2nd is my wedding anniversary – 1 year – yay! Then May 16th is the anniversary of Sang’s passing – not so yay.

Last year for the 16th I was in Indonesia for my honeymoon, so the day, while not lost on me, did pass me by. Sometimes it’s good to have distractions.

This year, and 2013 and 2014, were harder years in that I acknowledged and went right into the pain I was feeling. For me, sitting with the grief and letting it move through me, feeling all the feelings without judgment, is best. Not easiest, but best. I feel they can be processed that way.

It makes me kind of sad that I won’t be able to visit Sang’s grave this year. That was something I did.

It’s not that I want to be sad, or that I’m holding onto the past unnecessarily. I’m honouring what’s coming up for me right now. Grief comes in waves for me and can come out of nowhere. I’ll be driving in my car and suddenly tears will well up as a happy memory comes to my mind.

I find that people still don’t quite know what to say. That’s why I find grieving has been quite a personal journey for me.

My 1 year wedding anniversary on the other hand was very joyful! My husband and I reminisced about everything we did over the past year, which was A LOT. In our first year of marriage we moved to a different country. Bought a new home and sold our old home. Both got new jobs. That’s a lot of change for 1 year! We visit our favorite spots and dream about the amazing years to come.

But we did it! And I feel very strong as a couple for having navigated all that successfully.

So May is a month for fondly remembering and grieving my previous love, and celebrating and remembering my new love.

How the Akashic Records Can Help Mother Daughter Relationships

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While working on a relationship reading for a couple last week, I was reminded that relationship readings can be done for parents and children too. The picture to the left is of me and my mom when I was just born.

Ah being born… As a baby I had no idea what issues I’d get to experience as I grew up with my mom. No idea what our relationship dynamic would be. And also no idea until I studied Soul Realignment that I chose to incarnate with my parents knowing the potential for growth it presented.

As an adult, I know that my mom can push my buttons like almost no one else can! So much history… And likely not just from this lifetime.

Since my mom is coming to stay with us for a week soon, I’m feeling it’s finally time to do a relationship reading for my mother and I. It’s not just about randomly going in and seeing what shared karma and other blocks we have, it’s about setting my intention for what I want to create instead of what I’m currently experiencing.

So I’ll need to sit with that for a while. Really think about how I want our relationship to be now. Depending on what I find in the reading, I may or may not share it in another blog post!


Add a Little Zen to Your Life

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I really like sitting in silence for long periods of time. In day-to-day life it’s typically hard to find a “good” reason to do this, so attending events where many people sit in silence at one time together gives me an excellent opportunity to get in my silent time.

Last weekend I checked out the San Antonio Zen Buddhist Center’s Intro to Zen Meditation class, and it was lovely!

They have a peaceful little room where at least 10 of us learned the basics of Zen then sat and also walked in silence for a little over 30 minutes.

I’m not sure if there are different techniques used at different levels, but what we covered in the intro was sitting still for the allotted time and observing our breath. Stilling the mind through focus on the breath is a lot harder than you may imagine. I just love it when I’m able to calm my thoughts though!

The teacher read a cool quote from a book by a famous Zen monk about only being concerned with the exhale. Feeling like with each exhale, it could be the last breath you take in this life. Then, as the inhale happens automatically, being amazed and delighted that you are still alive.

Slightly morbid I suppose, but very interesting nonetheless.

Now that I’ve completed the intro class, I can go to the once a month 4 hour Sunday morning meditations! Very excited about that.

If you’d like to learn more about the San Antonio Zen Buddhist Center, check out their website at: http://www.sanantoniozen.org/

To bring a little Zen into your life right this moment, simply focus on your breath and keep bringing your mind back when it wanders, without judgment. Ahhhh inner peace…..

How to Use Your Soul to Get Unstuck

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There are moments in life when we need to get things done and we get SO in our heads that nothing seems to work.

Example: Today while designing my new business cards, my mind was telling me, “Must come up with perfect catchy new slogan. Must make sure the wording is perfect.” AHHHHHHH! Needless to say, I was not producing.

What I was doing was sitting there staring at my computer screen. Tick tock, tick tock.

So how can your soul possibly help you in these kinds of situations? Well, follow this process the next time you feel brain-dead or stuck and then YOU can tell ME how it works!

Step 1: Leave your head. I repeat. Get out of your head. Understand that your brain is trying its best and things just aren’t working out. So slowly breath and quiet it down.

Step 2: Drop into your heart space. Start sensing and feeling into the area around your heart in your chest. Notice anything you are feeling there. At first you may feel nothing and begin to get frustrated, and that’s ok. Keep doing it till things calm down. This takes practice, so put in the time and practice.

Step 3: Tune in to what your Soul, expressing itself through your heart energy, is trying to say. What message is it sending you? What words or ideas or images are popping into your consciousness now?

Step 4: Write them down. This is gold people. Straight from your Soul gold.

This method works for me and I’d love to hear how it works for you!

Love and light,


Easy Way to Connect to Your Higher Self

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In my hand I hold a pendulum. It’s a beaut. Made of Carnelian, a crystal that grounds, restores motivation, stimulates creativity, and helps you trust and empower yourself. Seemed like a great choice for a pendulum!

Why am I holding a pendulum? What do I use it for? Why might you want to get one too?


This little guy helps me connect to my Higher Self, aka Soul. Why do I need a tool to do that?


There’s this little thing called the ego, and it likes to run interference between mind and soul communication. For a good reason – it wants to keep you safe. But maybe you don’t always want to stay in the same spot, and so some “scary” change will be needed.

So say you want to create a new outcome by taking new action… It’s not always easy to know what action would be the greatest expression of your Divine Wonderful Self. There’s a lot of other thoughts and ideas mucking about so your super soft intuitive voice can get lost in that. What you need is a way to cut through it all and get to the good stuff, and that’s exactly what a pendulum can do.

A decade ago I had my first pendulum and I did NOT know how to use it. I’d ask it super emotional questions and then freak out about the answers, sigh. Things have changed a lot since then. Well, it’s really only been the last 3 years I’ve used one pendulum for my Akashic Record work and another for my personal dowsing.

Now I find using my personal pendulum very beneficial. Questions paired with intentions are key. So first you get clear on what you want – your intention – then you ask questions about what actions will get you there. Remember to always ask if: 1) Your intention is aligned to your soul’s highest path and purpose, and 2) Your actions are aligned to your soul’s highest path and purpose. That’s kind of key…

Do not be in an emotional state or craving a certain answer when you dowse. That’s going to mess with your answers. Also, don’t be like me in my 20s – don’t be curious about all sorts of things and ask questions just for the sake of asking. That’s not productive.

If used properly and with care, your pendulum can become your decision aiding bff in no time : )

Questions, comments? I’m happy to clarify anything that’s not crystal clear!

The Separation Myth

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Something I’ve been grappling with for a while is this notion that is prevalent in many teachings that God/Source/Spirit/Creator of All That Is is separate from us. Specifically that it is above us in a hierarchical set up. And we are below. Being raised a Christian, this was part of what I learned when I grew up.

And for many years of my life I believed this. But then, after a particularly consciousness expanding meditation experience I had back in 2006 in Thailand, I 100% knew that I was not separate from Source. I experienced that every cell of my being held Divine intelligence and that I was Source/Source was inside me.

Despite having this tangible experience, I still did other meditations with teachers where I would “go up” to experience the Divine and then bring it “down” into myself. Which seemed odd. It was nice, but it didn’t really fit with what I knew to be true.

This became even more apparent when I studied Soul Realignment, because it made it clear that each soul is made from Source energy. So there is no separateness. My soul animates me, if it weren’t connected to my body, I’d be dead.

But still I struggled… Until I started studying ThetaHealing and one paragraph jumped out at me and made it all make sense. In ThetaHealing you “go” up to the 7th Plane to do the work. So the author explains how this both is and isn’t the case:

“When you go to the Seventh Plane using this process, the perception is that you are going outside yourself, out into the universe to the far reaches of the cosmos and through a portal into creation. In a way this is true, but not in the way you might think. Inside every person there is a tiny universe that is identical to the vastness of All That Is.

“So, what do we find inside ourselves? We find that inside each of us there is the Creative Force, Source and God. Infinity is inside us as well as outside. So where are you going when you go up and seek God? […] You are entering into the nucleus of an atom. Each time that you connect to the Creator, you go on a journey in the inner vastness. This journey connects you to your own atoms and also brings you to the awareness of the outside universe of infinite energy and to the realization that God is in every atom.

“So you go on a journey inside yourself to find the Creator-self that is inside you and outward to the cosmic consciousness.”

Pretty neat hey?! Now I can finally make peace with the whole going outside myself because it’s simply me connecting to the cosmic consciousness. Everything already exists in me, but it’s a handy way to feel into a more expanded experience and connection.

I hope that makes sense : )

If you have any comments re: your own understandings or experiences, please share!

Let it GO! How to Release and Refocus for Success in 2016

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If you don’t have a 4-year-old daughter, you may not have seen the movie Frozen yet. That’s ok. Disney always has great inspiring soundtracks for their movies, so I thought I’d include a song from this blockbuster as inspiration for this article on releasing. Please click on the link above to listen to the song, then continue reading : )

A lot can happen in a year, some good, some not so good. Keep all the happy memories, file the not so great ones away as lessons, and then let them go. Holding onto painful memories doesn’t do you any good – it just keeps you stuck. You’ll also want to release any behaviour and thought patterns that really don’t serve you any more. Otherwise, you’re bringing a lot o baggage with you on your journey into the new year.

A great way to travel lightly into the new year is to write down on a piece of paper all the things you are ready to let go of. Sit with it for a while, this isn’t meant to be a rush job. Be honest with yourself and look at what you created in 2015, as well as why/how.

Once you have a list that feels complete – you haven’t overlooked any major things – then burn baby burn. You are literally going to light this list on fire and watch it burn. Do so in a safe way, preferably outdoors. As you watch the flames engulf your list of things to let go, feel these things leaving your space and energy. Allow them to dissolve into nothingness.

After this is complete, take out another sheet of paper. This is a happy sheet. You are going to write down all your visions for 2016 on this paper. You don’t have to know how they will happen – dream big! Consider all areas of your life and make sure you set intentions for all of them. You are setting the foundation for an exceptional year. Fold up this piece of paper and put it somewhere you won’t lose it – like in a bedside table drawer.

Now every month, or more frequently if you feel so inclined, take out this piece of paper and review it. Stay connected to your dreams and intentions and see them come to life!

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How to Shift into Your Body & Soul

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As a woman, I live through my body, I experience things through my body, and quite honestly – I talk through my body. I will say things like “My body doesn’t want to eat that” or “My body needs more rest.”

It’s not all about the brain!

This can be a foreign language to some people, i.e., most men. And probably some ladies too. But ever since getting a copy of Women’s Bodies Women’s Wisdom many years ago, I started to speak Body-ese.

Now I’m reading a book called Feminine and Powerful, and loving it. There’s something called the dienten (by various Eastern traditions) that sits in the womb area. It sits there and is wise. And this wisdom can be tapped into.

I love it! And I believe my soul’s wisdom resides in my body, so when I listen to my body, I’m connecting to my divine knowing.

I had to clear a number of blocks before I could even stay in my body (as opposed to living 100% in my mind).

Do you listen to your body? How much time do you spend in your body vs your mind?

These are valuable questions to ask. If you find you spend a lot of time with thoughts, try some simple practices:

Observe your breath (yes it’s that easy, but at the same time not as easy as you’d think!)

Feel sensations in your palms and feet (these are the easiest areas to feel sensations in)

Place your hand on your lower stomach and breath into it (this is very calming, de-stressing, and grounding)

Try these out and let me know what you think!