Protecting or Disempowering?

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“We can’t tell your aunt that the pneumonia she had when she came to stay with us gave your grandpa a chest infection and me some kind of throat infection, it would make her feel bad.”

“I can’t tell grandma I’m going motorcycling with three of my girlfriends, she’d be too worried about me.”

BOTH of these things were said to me last week by my grandma and mother, respectively. And I wonder why I grew up hiding who I truly was and not being able to handle confrontation…

My Soul Gift is Divine Truth, but my family of origin did not make it easy for me to live it. Oh no, quite the opposite.

And I’m pretty sure this a codependent way of being too, although I haven’t picked up my Melody Beattie book for while now.

Growing up, this was a double-edged sword because not only did my mom try to shelter me from the reality of things – again: I’m Divine Truth! I see right through that crap. But anyways, lol, then I also learned that I in turn had to shelter the people in my life from the “harshness” of certain realities about things I did.

Can you say hello double life?

Because that’s what happens – we go underground so to speak. Things are hidden. Lies are told. The feeling of acceptance for who we truly are dwindles. And we become our fake selves with different people depending on the situation.

Ugh! I’ve been there. I hated it. That’s why I call my company Soul Shine – because my goal is to empower people to unapologetically shine as who they truly are.

Seeing these two incidents last week got me thinking about how freaking disempowering this “protection” is.

Protecting people from what? The ability to be strong and handle things in life when shit happens, which it always does?

It’s not just my family, otherwise there wouldn’t be codependents anonymous and numerous books written on the subject.

If we really squint when looking at this we can see that it does come from a “well-intentioned” place. Don’t want to hurt or upset anyone.

But when the result of “not hurting” people is robbing them of the opportunity to be functioning emotionally intelligent adults, mmm, I’d argue it’s not worth it in the big picture.

Why can’t we trust that people can handle their own emotions? Because it makes us uncomfortable? Because we don’t want to deal with their response?

Ah, there it is – the underlying truth. We don’t trust that we’ll be able to handle their reaction. We don’t trust that we’ll be ok no matter what their response.

But the truth is – we will. I didn’t have this deep knowing until after Sang (my fiance) passed and I experienced the worst abandonment I could imagine, and survived.

I don’t want other people to have to go through that to know the truth. I’d rather be able to share it – the fact that you will be ok no matter what.

That there is a deeper, bigger Divine part of you that exists and has a strength so massive you can’t even imagine it.

However, the fear of abandonment is very real and we run the risk of being ostracized when we do something we know won’t go over well with someone we love.

When we are truthful, we give the other person the opportunity to step up, process their own emotions, and accept us. Or not, it’s their choice.

Again, this can be so scary. The unknown, the uncertainty of will I or won’t I be accepted.

We don’t have to try to manipulate other people’s emotions and responses.

Most often being honest leads to growing closer, but sometimes it doesn’t.

In those cases, the big hairy question is – would you rather continue being fake you in a dynamic that doesn’t allow you to express yourself?

Or would you rather embrace who you truly are and branch out to find people who truly get and support you?

If you feel ready to bring more of the real you out into the world but also feel like a baby deer wobbling about trying to walk on new legs, reach out for support.

Apply for a Clarity Call with me or contact someone else to help guide you on this very important journey.

In love, light and truth,

Twyla K

Twyla K is a Soul Clarity Coach, Akashic Record Alchemist, and owner of Soul Shine Healing, Coaching & Orgonite. Twyla geeks out about all the cool Soul level aspects that make each person their own unique Divine being. She loves diving deep with people to help them uncover the Soul level blocks that are sabotaging them so they’re then able to take a stand for their Truth. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session and connect with Twyla today!

Crack is OK

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smokey quartz

I’m talking about cracks in crystals and in you – I am not talking about any other type of crack, obviously.

Please direct your attention to the picture of my amazing new smokey quartz pyramid. Beautiful right?

Well… there was a time in my life when I would have said NO. Reject! Look at the cracks in it – hideous!

In fact, that is what I literally did in 2011 when I bought my first energetically charged crystal bracelet from a kind healer lady in Calgary.

It was the fall, Sang had come out the other side of chemo, radiation and surgery and things were finally looking up. I decided to treat myself to a beautiful crystal bracelet.

When I got the bracelet I carefully inspected every last inch of every last crystal and – gasp – found several cracks. What the ef! I paid good money for this bracelet and so it should be crack free!

Is what I thought at the time.

I even went so far as to contact the lady who made it and meet up with her to show her the imperfections because I wanted a completely perfect one.

Such a metaphor for my mindset and world view 7 years ago when external perfection was of utmost importance to me. Oh silly Twyla….

During our meeting the dear bracelet creator lady patiently explained to me that there are no bracelets that are completely crack free. They all have cracks.

Cracks are a part of life. None of us is crack free and many of us have so many cracks on the inside we try to make our external selves that we present to the world perfect so no one knows about our imperfections.

It’s painful to be seen for the cracked beings we really are, until….

We are able to embrace our cracks and do vulnerability!

Oh vulnerability, how I hated you until Sang died and I realized I could survive the worst of the worst of what life could throw at me. Try to break me, you won’t succeed.

Before I used to think I could and had to protect myself. WRONG. That’s not strength, that’s living in fear.

Strength is being real, being seen for every last crack you have – plus all the good stuff too 😊 And I’m not saying go show your cracks to every last person, that’s not the point.

The point is not to pretend you’re something that nobody is.

That was confusing, let’s try that again: The point is to move from your fantasy illusory world where “perfect” people exist (and is what you strive for) into actual reality where nobody is perfect.

Stop lying to yourself.

Let go of the ridiculous crack free standards you hold for yourself.

Embrace your cracks – they make you YOU.

Just like my new beautiful smokey quartz crystal pyramid – you can still see the amazing unique rainbow refractions at the same time as you see the cracks. The cracks don’t negate the beauty.

Need help bringing in more self-love and acceptance? A Soul Blueprint clearing can really support you in understanding and loving your cracks.

Click on This Link to apply for a Clarity Call and let’s talk about what you’ve got going on and what beautiful support would look like for you 💖

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching & Orgonite. She’s a Soul Clarity Coach who offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

How to Love Every Last Part of Yourself

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If you think everyone else is rainbows and lollypops through and through and you’re the only one who has dark ugly spots – you are dead wrong.

For years I tried so hard to appear perfect externally, but internally felt so empty and misunderstood. Because I wasn’t showing my true self, I was showing the person I thought other people wanted me to be.

I judged myself very harshly and of course karmically chose to incarnate into a highly critical family to embed and uphold this pattern for me, yay…..

But how does this all relate to the weird picture at the top of this post?

Well, as many of you are aware, I’m completely obsessed and in love with making orgonite everything right now.

My latest pieces are pendants, and it was this above pictured recent FAIL that helped me understand self love better.

You see, the pendant in the picture above turned out tragically… It’s all bumpy, mis-shapen, and worst of all – it will not come out of the mold. Try and pry and yank as  I might, it is not going anywhere.

It’s going to be a part of that mold forever. I have to see it and acknowledge it every time I make more pendants.

And if we’re completely honest with ourselves – our bumpy mis-shapen aspects aren’t going anywhere either.

But to show them to others – gasp – unthinkable! Death! Dying! Horribleness!

It’s true. There is a part of our brains that is wired to make us want to fit in.

I believe this all stems from a primal survival instinct, a very real fear that if we don’t fit in the with the tribe we will be ostracized and literally left by ourselves to die.

Obviously this is no longer a real and present danger. We no longer depend on our tribes in such an extreme way. But does our lizard brain know this? Nope.

So we need to re-wire that part of our brains, and the sooner the better.

This is all part of the giant and complete move from fear to love. From fearing being vulnerable to loving every part of ourselves and being able to show and embrace them.

A very simple activity you can do whenever you notice self criticism pop up is to say to yourself, “I love and accept _____ (whatever you were criticizing)”.

This requires repetition, patience, and determination.

Another activity I love is facing the fear head on.

Set the intention to reveal one of the pieces of yourself that you currently judge about yourself to someone close to you.

It can seem terrifying at first, but after you do it and see that the world doesn’t end and their reaction is one of acceptance (this is why you need to choose the person you share with wisely) – you’ve just taken a step towards:

  1. Greater self love
  2. Embracing the power of vulnerability
  3. Being able to do it again

Sometimes we have big subconscious blocks to loving ourselves and we’re stuck in some pretty deep patterns that have us rolling in misery.

And the messed up part is that we’re totally unaware of what they are, so we keep on spinning…

Getting off this hamster wheel of doom can require the help of someone outside yourself, someone objective, someone with the skills to identify and clear those absolutely annoying patterns. Someone like me!

Definitely do work with the above activities to re-pattern your thinking so you can love every piece of yourself.

Then if you still find there are areas you just can’t seem to budge, connect with me. We can talk about what transformation is possible for you.

Let’s get back to my pendant mess now.

By sharing publicly my embarrassing mess of a pendant fail, I’m fully admitting and showing that I am not perfect. I don’t get things right 100% of the time.

And I’m ok with it.

Would I have done this 10 years ago? No way. But I can do it now.

So what if I made a crappy pendant, that doesn’t change the amazing Divine eternal being I am.

My wish for you is that you become fully ok with and love every last part of you. Because you are a beautiful Divine eternal being.

Sometimes we need to be reminded of that 💛

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Why Numbing Keeps You SOUL Disconnected

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There are SO many reasons why you may not be living your Soul truth and also may be totally unaware of it.

Society has a LOT of coping mechanisms embedded that enable us to distract ourselves, numb ourselves, lie to ourselves, and otherwise avoid dealing with the painful reality that we’re not happy deep down at Soul level where it really counts.

Let’s look at a big one….

This week we’ll look at the super obvious one that is great for immediate numbing but the next day… You feel crappy again: alcohol and food in the over-eating capacity.

The thing with this is that when you numb the uncomfortable feelings, you also dull your ability to connect to the happy sensations, emotions, and your Soul Truth.

It’s not pretty. And let’s not forget that alcohol is a depressant. I realized this when I was grieving and I thought I’d have a nice glass of wine to make me feel better while watching a movie. Quite the opposite happened, lol.

I guess it didn’t help that I chose a movie about a little boy whose dad abandoned him (not sure what I was thinking there – oh wait – now I remember! It was a Gerard Butler movie…) By the end of the movie I was sobbing and internally, energetically I could literally feel the heaviness and sadness. It wasn’t good. After that it was no drink-o while grieving-o for me.

The lesson there and what I embraced going forward was allowing myself to feel all the real emotions. Grief needs to be felt to be processed. All emotions just want to come up and alert us to things. And then I was able to stay connected to my Soul Truth too.

And for the record – I am not opposed to alcohol 😄 I’ve just found that moderation is the key to enjoyment. If only I could have imparted that wisdom to early 20s Twyla…

Any which way, our emotions are one of our greatest allies and inner compass components.

Recently I’ve been noticing that I get an immediate emotional reaction to things that aren’t Soul aligned for me. Hello dear Soul Truth indicator! It’s a very subtle sense of aversion and I know from experience now that this is gold for me. If listen to it I will stay on a beautiful Soul aligned and abundant path.

You can’t notice that if you’re disconnected from your feelings!

Through my personal and spiritual growth journey I’ve gotten to this fine tuned feeling noticing place, but in the beginning of it I needed to reconnect to feeling anything. Even the big “obvious” emotions.

For a good 2 or so decades of my life I’d actually shut down my emotions completely because not feeling anything made me feel strong and invulnerable.

Granted this was a necessary coping mechanism to get through some brutal early childhood shit.

Oh so many layers….

But back to alcohol and over eating.

If you feel that numbing yourself in these ways is currently one of your coping mechanisms, I invite you to ask yourself, “What is it I’m trying to run away from or avoid?”

It could be a work situation, an uncomfortable emotion, a relationship problem you can’t figure out how to fix, or something much deeper…. Really sit with the above question and be prepared to be brutally honest with yourself. If you’re ready.

Sometimes the reality is that we simply are not ready, and that’s perfectly ok.

But if you do feel ready then know that doing this work will lead to self-realization, personal growth and spiritual growth. And ultimately – once you’ve gone through the feelings and been able to process things – a much more Soul aligned life where you are living your Truth and loving it.

During this time it can be really beautiful and helpful to have a guide, someone who has walked the path and come out the other side shining. Someone like… ME!

So if you’d like to talk more about this, I invite you to click on the link below and sign up for a Clarity Call with me. I’d love to talk with you!

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Transformation Takes Time

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May is a month of conflicting emotions for me, and that’s ok. May 2nd is my wedding anniversary – it was #3 this year, thank you, thank you very much. And May 16th is the day Sang passed. Even though it’s been 6 years now, I still find myself being overwhelmed by sadness and emotion at this time of year. It’s a time that I reflect back on who I was and who I am now, because supporting Sang through his battle with cancer then having him pass and being forced to rebuild my life has me in a very different place than I was before he got sick. That’s the topic of this post – honestly comparing me back then to the person I am and the life I’ve created now.

Life Before Death


It was around 3 in the morning when Sang and I met for the first time, in this lifetime. The place: an industrial warehouse somewhere in SE Calgary that had been transformed into a magical dance party event called Motion Notion. The year: 2000.As was customary at such all night dance parties, people hugged upon first meeting. And so Sang and I hugged and in that moment I just knew. There was a very deep recognition and connection…

Over the next 4 years we became really great friends, and then I moved to Taiwan. Upon my return Sang and I began dating, then got engaged in Costa Rica, bought a house together and moved in. I thought my life was on a track that wouldn’t change for many many years. But then 10 months later… cancer hit.

Up until that point I didn’t know what I didn’t know about healing myself, spirituality, growing spiritually, setting boundaries, knowing myself, who I really was, personal power, real peace. It was a pretty hefty list. I thought my life was fine.

That being said, I was acutely aware that I had some major issues. Having an abusive alcoholic real dad then recovered alcoholic step dad and codependent mother left me with very unhealthy relationship skills, little trust in myself and a lot of fear.

When Sang and I met we were young and cool, lol, but then becoming adults and having a grown up relationship caused my issues to come to light. But I didn’t have the tools to deal with them, so I became a workaholic to avoid them.

Looking back, I can also see that because I didn’t know who I was, I went along with what others said or did. Which ultimately left me feeling crappy and unfulfilled.

All this began to change slowly but surely when Sang got sick and I was stretched to my limit working FT and being his caregiver. I became aware of relationships that hugely needed revamping and realized I needed to find the truth inside me to guide me if I was going to survive.

Making life and death decisions and caring for someone terminally ill, I had to be sure that I would not regret anything I did – because I knew I’d only get one chance at it.

So I threw myself into caring fro Sang completely, but in the process I lost sight of who I was even more.

When Sang passed, I was a shell of a person. Stronger in some ways but left with a sense of being completely lost in life.

Life After Death


Life for me after Sang died ended as I’d previously known it. So much of what had made up my identity was gone in an instant. Where I thought my life was headed – gone.

Looking back from where I am now – it took me 6 years to get to a place where I can say I know myself at a deep level and am WAY more living my truth.

A huge part of this was my healing and spiritual journey. I can’t even tell you how much therapy and many different kinds of healing sessions I’ve had over the last 7 years. And this from a lady who back in 2010 thought Body Talk was woo woo!

My how things have changed… For the better!

After I got certified in Soul Realignment Level 1 in 2013 and I noticed my old inability to trust issue coming up in my new relationship and BLAM! I did an Akashic Record reading and clearing for myself and resolved that shit. Now I have a marriage where I actually feel safe and totally trust my husband, which was something I never had with a partner before.

I now had the tools to make positive changes happen and keep myself growing in the right direction, the direction of the person I know I wanted to become.

I also discovered that I enjoyed being a part of people’s transformations through my Akashic Record sessions WAY more than I liked instructional design and technical writing. But obviously I couldn’t just quit my day job, things needed to grow organically.

By far my biggest personal and spiritual growth spurts happened when I worked with coaches and mentors. And I am so grateful to each and every one of them.

Working with a life coach in 2012 helped me begin to set healthy boundaries, start healing from codependence, and connect to my own personal compass for what is right for me. It was with her that I also began making the huge shift from the fear vibration to love vibration.

In 2015 I worked with a business mentor and was able to then get myself out there more. Leaving the psychic closet took a lot of courage because initially I had a lot of self judgment. In 2017 I worked with an intuitive business coach who guided me into even bigger business territory. And now currently I’m working with an amazing coach who has helped me massively both personally and in my business.

What I see in all this is that my transformation took time and my transformation was a team effort. There are beautiful Souls out there who we are destined to join paths with and when we’re in relationship with them our life takes beautiful leaps forward. There was NO way I could have handled all of these shifts at once or navigated them by myself.

Heck, the shifts I’m going through right now almost make me want to say uncle and take a break from all this growth!

But no. I’m committed to this path. I’ve come so far and there truly is no going back. I can honestly say the last 7 years have been the hardest of my life and the most rewarding. I’m constantly pushed and pushing myself to new levels.

I love my current coach because she guides me based on who I am at Soul level, not from some formulaic strategy that’s supposed to work for everyone. I’m not everyone, clearly. And that’s how I see people too – as unique Souls who can shine happier and brighter when they honor their truth and live in line with what’s true for them.

In a letter Sang wrote to me before his neck dissection surgery when he thought he was going to die, he said that what would make him most happy would be to see me doing what made me happy.

I know he’s near me and helping me still and I am so grateful for that. And I’m pretty sure he’s damn happy because I definitely am.

In Love and Light,
Twyla K
Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing, Coaching & Orgonite. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who know they need to make some changes so they can start doing life their way figure out what’s blocking them and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Manifesting & the Detachment Paradox Solved

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Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I can tell the most frustrating aspect of manifesting is detachment.

You’re telling me that I’m supposed to want to manifest something, but then not care if I manifest it?

That seems like one big fat paradox and loads of crap to me.

This is how some people feel about manifesting. However, while pondering it last evening in relation to my upcoming meeting with a potential future purveyor of my orgonite pyramids,  some truths became very evident.

The reason it is so important to completely detach from the “what” of what the object of your manifesting might look like is this: In doing so you are closing yourself off to the potential of something better, and your neediness actually repels the object of your desire.

Is there any way to know what that something better may look like from your current vantage point? NO. So don’t even try.

Let’s break this down further and look at all the benefits of practicing detachment in manifesting.

  • Number 1: Detachment does not mean you don’t care. Care up a storm! But care about the end result, not the middle stuff. I will do my best and try my best and prepare for my upcoming meeting with this business owner to the best of my abilities. I care a ton about this meeting. But if it doesn’t pan out… well ok I will feel a little gutted probably, but I’ll also be able to pull myself back together and keep on keeping on.
  • Number 2: If your first attempt doesn’t pan out, then YAY! You’ve got everything prepared to do it again PLUS you’ve likely learned a few things about what not to do next time and you’re no longer green in the gills.Note: Doing Number 2 means that you have to re-frame what is seen by typical people as “failure”. There’s no such thing as failure, just many learning lessons of what not to do. I think some famous person said something similar to that sometime in the past.
  • Number 3: If you’ve embraced Number 1 and Number 2 you will act as calm as a cucumber when you go into “the situation” (I use quotation marks because “the situation” will differ but feel equally as immensely important for everyone). You will not give off that icky gicky “I need this or I will literally die” vibe. That’s not attractive. Nobody likes that. And energetically it’s like manifesting repellent.

I know, I know, I’ve made it sound intellectually very easy to embrace detachment and I fully acknowledge that living and doing it is a whole ‘nother thing. BUT…

If you do start to embrace detachment while manifesting then little by little it will get easier.

Just like getting back to running after 2 months off was painful and my pathetic muscle strength and cardio was embarrassing to myself. But after 3 weeks, oh the glorious 3 week mark! The endorphins were flowing once again and my muscles and cardio were no longer pathetic.

I’m not saying that after 3 weeks of practicing detachment in manifesting you will be a master and love every minute of it. I am saying that you will get more in the flow, neuropathways will begin to form that will begin to make things easier.

Allow that dangling carrot to motivate you. As well as the carrot of manifesting ultimately being more successful and rewarding.

And remember – no matter what happens, either way you will be ok. Take a deep breath and repeat that to yourself several times.

Perhaps you have already tried detachment in manifesting. Any interesting results to share? Comment below!

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

How to Talk Your Ego Out of a Tantrum

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Oh yes ego – you would love it if I never changed, never ventured out into “scary” new territory, and just played it safe till I died.

But I’m not wired that way. Not even close.

My life has been one of jumping into new situations and countries and levels of consciousness.

Very recently I signed up for and began studying Soul Realignment Level 3. My teacher Andrrea Hess calls it the super geeky ninja level Akashic Record reading level!

It’s been 4 years since I completed Soul Realignment Level 2, mind you, I did complete the Soul Manifesting Blueprint and Reading the Future in the Akashic Records programs since then too…

But back to the main point – it’s been 4 years since I did Level 2! I never felt like I even wanted to do Level 3 at all ever, lol.

And then…. I guess I finally reached the point where I yearned for more in depth knowledge. I wanted to go deeper. How does the Soul Blueprint exactly work? What other Master Guides are available to me? What deeper levels of Soul work can I offer my clients?

The curiosity and desire was there!

This is a key important piece – if you have the desire and you can tell it comes from a Soul inspired place, that is gold. That means you’re meant for it.

However, when I started working through the Level 3 lessons, that’s when my ego started freaking the ef out.

This happened when I did Level 1 and when I did Level 2, so now I’m onto it. And even though these ego tantrums do distract me and make it hard to push on, just the knowing helps a lot.

Piece 1 is the enthusiastic desire for the change or learning, then piece 2 is the ego freaking out.

So my questions for you are:

  • Do you currently know or can you identify your ego’s “defense” / distraction tactics?
  • What can you do to ease your ego through the transition so you can keep moving forward?

For me, my ego goes into hyper skeptic and critic mode. It finds a way to criticize everything about the new content I’m learning and then slaps on a thick layer of doubt about its validity.

My ego would love it if I threw all the lessons in the trash and never looked at them again.

A brilliant life coach I worked with years ago taught me that a way to deal with ego tantrums is to placate it. Tell your ego that it will be ok. You’re just going to try this out and see what happens.

This is piece 3 on the path of growth into new territory – getting your ego on board for the ride.

There’s no need to get healing work done for blocks, force your way forward, or spin off into trying to fix or deal with the fears.

Gentleness is the best tactic.

Tell your ego that you’ve done this before. You’ve made leaps in learning and big changes and yes they were new and scary but now they’re normal. Just like this present newness will in turn become normal too.

Cheers to big growth!

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Why Discernment is SO Important for Soul Inspired Growth

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When you expand into new ways of being you best believe there are going to be growing pains and you best be ready for them.

Remember being a teenager and hitting a growth spurt? I don’t either, but I know it happened 😁

During that time, our physical bodies were literally expanding, pushing never before pushed limits.

That’s what’s happening for you energetically when you go through a growth phase too.

You are pushing new limits and expanding into new territory. But the difference between the two is that during your current growth phases you have the choice NOT to grow.

We always have a choice.

So the key – granted you do want to grow – is to discern what is a new choice that will move you forward vs what would be the same old choice that would keep you where you’re at.

Just because a new opportunity arises does NOT mean it’s a new choice. Be very careful to discern when a new opportunity is actually a choice you’ve already been making.

When you’re able to discern that and to see that the particular opportunity will actually keep you stuck in the same loop – it’s time to make a new choice!

Saying No to an opportunity can seem like the exact wrong thing to do, but I’m telling you – it’s quite the opposite when it comes to doing Soul inspired growth.

Two questions to ask yourself to help you discern whether to be a Heck Yes or a Big No to an opportunity are:

  1. Does this opportunity A: uphold the exciting energy of who I’m becoming, or B: does it have the same energy of who I was before?
  2. Does this opportunity A: feel expansive and aligned to who I know I am at Soul level, or does it B: feel contracted and part of old habit patterns that I no longer want to be in?
If you answer Yes to part A in both questions then YAY – move forward with that sh!t and grow and glow!

If you answered Yes to part B of either of them then… You know what you gotta do – suck it up and say No to the opportunity.

I hope you’ve found this helpful and I’d love to hear your feedback on it 💛✨

And if you’re having trouble discerning the old from the new or want support in making Soul aligned choices – email me! I can help 😊
Love and Light,
Twyla K
Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Soul Aligned vs “Shoulding” in Manifesting

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The #1 most important and foundational piece to manifesting is your intention.

You can take all the classes on manifesting you want and apply technique after technique, but if your intention is off – then it’s all for naught.

A fire won’t start without a spark, and in the same way – your manifesting won’t take off unless you have that spark of desire and passion.

It’s really funny / sad how in the manifesting workshops and 1:1 sessions I do, I see people shooting themselves in the foot before they even get out of the gate.

Then when they leave the gate they’re hobbling and forcing it and not enjoying any of the process, obviously, because it’s painful to run with a hole in your foot.

Why do they do this? Because their intention is more of a “should” than something that is truly Soul aligned and lights them up.

So they say they want it, and often they believe it’s something they should want, but if we dig a little deeper – WHICH I LOVE DOING! Then it becomes clear that there is zip zero nada passion behind it.

And this goes for me too! There are goals I’ve set for myself that either went nowhere or when I reached them I was like – yayyyy…. fizzle fizzle fizzle…. Because I didn’t actually care about them and they didn’t create abundance for me.

The two foundational questions to ask yourself every time you set a big intention are:

  1. Is this aligned to who I truly am at Soul level?
  2. Does this light me up, get me excited, and feel expansive?

The key is you need to get a YES to both questions.

I may get all jazzed up about something and get a big yes to Question 2. For example, I was really fired up about writing a book last year and set that as my intention.

But then when I went to Question 1 this year and checked if it’s aligned to me at Soul level…. I got a big NO.

Now, I could write a guidebook because at Soul level I am good at training, so there’s a little loophole I can wiggle into there if I want.

Regardless, the main point is that I did not get a YES to both questions and therefore if I went ahead and wrote a traditional book it would not bring me abundance.

And to be fair, writing a book isn’t a manifesting intention. It’s a to do. It can be a normal intention for sure, but since we’re talking about manifesting I need to clarify that it’s not something to manifest.

Manifesting relates to attracting things you have no control over into your experience, i.e., money, people and opportunities.

But you still want to ask yourself those 2 questions for regular intention setting too. Because they will help you weed out intentions that won’t bring you abundance.

If you want to answer Question 1 but you don’t know who you are at Soul level, then it may be time to get a Soul Profile reading with me. It’s a big deal to understand and connect to your Soul Gift and Divine Nature!

In conclusion – if there’s something you set as an intention to manifest and it’s just not happening – ask yourself the two questions above. Then if needed, revise your intention till it does get you a big YES to both questions.

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

How to do “Start Agains”

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“Start again….”

A deep man’s voice with a heavy Indian accent drones from the speakers.

“Start again…” The voice instructs me and nearly 100 others again in the meditation hall, all sitting as still as possible on our square cushions.

It’s 1pm in the afternoon and I’ve started again 4 times already today! Frustration rising, observing frustration, frustration begins to lessen.

I wonder why I can’t just be where I want to be NOW without putting in this effort to start again and again…

“Start at the top of the head and keep your attention moving down, keep moving down to the tips of the toes, observing all sensations you find as you go.”

This flashback to my last 10-day silent meditation course is one of the distracting mental memories that popped into my head this morning as I finally got back on my own meditation cushion at home after not being able to meditate for 2 days.

A nasty flu, flu #2 of 2018, knocked me out pretty badly this week to the point where I couldn’t focus or sit long enough to meditate.

Missing 2 days, I notice that it’s harder to get back into the focused state needed when I am able to sit and meditate again.

And missing even one day somehow makes it easier and tempting to miss another day, and then another, oh, and since you’ve already missed three, why not miss another day? It won’t hurt anyone….

To be honest I did try to meditate yesterday and it didn’t go so well, but I tried. I started again where I was.

Today I was able to sit for 30 minutes. Not yet the full hour I’d like, but this is what I’m capable of right now.

I also haven’t been able to get out running while I’ve been ill so that’s another area I’ll need to get back into once I feel well enough.

That inner critic voice that demands 110% every time can be quite sneaky too because it likes to tell you that if you can’t do it right, don’t do it all.

Well, I’m here to tell you the opposite.

There is no “right”, there’s only what you’re capable of right now and whatever that looks like is good enough.

When I get back on the running path, I may be jogging and I may have to take frequent breaks. SO WHAT.

It’s better to start again “badly” than never start.

Throughout life there are so many times where we have to start again, and each time it takes discipline, willpower and resolve.

This illness likely could and would have gone on and on. I’m sure my pajamas wouldn’t have minded if I’d continued being sick – a happy change for them since they’re used to only being slept in at night, not worn all day.

But… since I have two workshops this weekend, I decided yesterday (after finally admitting that my swallowing broken glass level of pain sore throat was not just going to go away on its own) that I was going to kick this asap.

I went to see the doctor, was told I can be better in as little as 24 hours, got some (ok – a lot of) meds, still have 1 day (today) to recover fully before tomorrow 😄

So that’s that.

All this makes me think about the bigger “start agains” in life too – like for example when Sang died and I had to start life as I knew it over again.

That one took a lot more time and effort and involved many smaller start agains within it.

The size of start agains can vary greatly.

But some things that can help you get moving forward again are:

  1. Giving yourself a set amount of time to go through the tough part – whether that’s grief, or illness, or sometimes it’s even happy things like vacations or holidays where you allow yourself to eat whatever you want. After the set amount of time is up though, you gotta get back to it. It’s time to take action or make plans or get back on the meditation cushion or running path.
  2. If you’re confronted with a bigger start again, see if you can break it down into smaller more manageable pieces. It’s not realistic to expect yourself to do everything at once, that just sets you up for frustration and likely failure. So break it on down into little pieces and start there.
  3. Make the decision that you’re going to get back to it, whatever it is. Just that can begin to shift things – trust me. Set a time or day for it too, that grounds the decision.
  4. Remember and connect to why you want to do it. Meditation is a staple in my life, it keeps me balanced and calm and sane. Running is important because it keeps me fit and helps me sleep. So when I think about that, I am eager to get back to them.

Happy starting again 😊

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!