Manifesting: How to Just Allow

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Can you imagine living with only 10-20% of your stuff?

I can!

Because I have been for the past two and half months. While my husband and I flew to Calgary end of May, 80-90% of our life (and by life I mean things) stayed in our home in San Antonio.

Two weeks ago things were put into motion to move our items up north so they can join us – oh what a happy reunion that will be!

But… we don’t have a definite date for their arrival. We have a window. A giant 2 week window in which they can arrive.

Do I want to manifest the delivery date to be yesterday? YES! And oh how I tried… My hopes were sky high.

But in looking at how I went about my manifesting, it was all wrong.

So let’s look at this whole scenario because a lot of the time I feel like people have their heads in the clouds when they talk about manifesting – like I did. Let’s all come back down to reality now.

First – there is the very real third dimensional reality we live in. We can’t really argue that a wall is a wall. Time is time here in the 3D.

But in the 4D where our minds reside – we can time travel! It’s wonderful! We imagine all the great things we want, but sadly we can’t grab them out of the 4D and yank them into the 3D.

Oh no, in the 3D, as I mentioned, we have linear time. Certain events need to take place before other events can occur.

Not that I did, but if I’d wanted to manifest my items reaching me a month ago before they’d even been packed, obviously I would have just created a ton more frustration for myself.

I use this extreme and ludicrous example though to highlight how some people do just that!

I want to manifest my Soul mate but I refuse to leave the house or try online dating. Well then, you are missing out on some very important 3D supporting pieces in your manifesting process.

Within manifesting there are also the to-dos right? At times certain things have to transpire to put in motion what you want to happen.

But getting back to frustration and where I went awry in my recent manifesting….

I was A: Trying to control something in the 3D I have no control over. and B: was craving and wanting which actually contracts my energy and blocks the manifesting flow.

Instead, I should have been focusing on:

A: Enjoying myself because really, unless I’m willing to track down the truck driver, drive to where he or she is, and harass them into driving faster…. my stuff is not going to get here any sooner.

B: Bringing myself into alignment with how I will feel when I have my things here so that energetically I am opening the door for it to happen, for it to come into my life.

Point A brings up a very important matter too – stressing over things we have absolutely no control over in our manifesting is futile and a giant waste of energy, yet we still do it. I still do it.

The waiting really is the hardest part, but when we get manifesting smart, it doesn’t have to be.

A big part of manifesting that seems counter-intuitive is actually being ok with not having what you want.

It’s fine to envision from a happy place what it will be like once you have what you’re trying to manifest – as long as it doesn’t become obsessing and prolonged day dreaming.

But notice when/if you get into the wah wah wanting, craving, attachment to the outcome.

If you find yourself there – check yourself before you wreck yourself, and your manifesting.

Bring yourself mentally back into balance, back into neutral. Having a meditation practice can really help with this.

Maybe do a little happy envisioning. Tune into the energy of how you’ll feel once you have what you want and then do things – actual real action things in the physical now – that will make you feel that way.

And last but so not least – have fun! You’ve already made up your mind what you want, the Universe knows that, so release the need to control how it exactly will show up and just have some fun.

The other small caveat is releasing exactly how it will happen or what it will look like (in some cases). Because honestly the Universe knows better than you what is best for you and may be upgrading your desire to business class where you were only dreaming of coach.

Love & Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is a Soul Clarity Coach, Akashic Record Alchemist, and owner of Soul Shine Healing, Coaching & Orgonite. Twyla geeks out about all the cool Soul level aspects that make each person a unique Divine being. She loves diving deep with people to help them uncover the Soul level blocks that are sabotaging them so they’re then able to take a stand for their Truth and create fulfilling lives congruent to it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session and connect with Twyla today!

Step 1 to Take Back Your Power

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img_1721Are you your own source of truth and power or do you unconsciously give it away to everyone else?

Bear with me as I use an analogy to explain this abstract and insidious concept…

I feel it’s one that is very important and needs to be shared and therefore it’s important to try to explain it as best I can.

And I also feel that sooooo many people, especially ladies because many of us were not taught how to trust ourselves growing up, have this way of being set as our default from a very early age.

The good news is that you can do something about it, but you MUST first become aware of it.

So let’s crank up your awareness on this disempowering way of being so you can start turning the tables on it asap.

Imagine that you have a tiny balloon inside you and inside this balloon is a control center. From this control center decisions about self esteem, confidence, worthiness, how you react to things – pretty much everything important – are made.

If this balloon control center resides inside YOU where it’s supposed to be then all is good. Your sense of worth and value comes from within you, you decide what’s right for you, you are authentic and empowered.

BUT, if at a young age you were not taught to trust yourself, you had controlling parents or people in your life who were judgmental and told you what was what and didn’t let you decide on how you felt about things, then….

This little balloon control center floated up, out of you, and took up residence external to you.

When I was growing up I honestly thought the God as described in the Christian organized religion was always watching me. So I was always critiquing what I was doing from outside myself.

In reality and as I understand it now, what I was doing was moving my consciousness external to myself and judging myself. No wonder I spent the first half of my life being so ridiculously ungrounded and self-critical!

As a kid I also learned quickly that I could control people’s reactions based on how I looked and acted. So I would do that. I needed to do it to survive childhood.

But then I kept doing this as an adult and so was rarely showing up fully as myself. I was showing up as the person that would create the most pleasant outcome and least amount of waves in each situation.

That’s why at the age of 32 when I had the opportunity (unwanted of course but still…) to start life again, I knew I needed to take back ownership of my balloon control center.

It’s been my life’s work for the past 6 years and I can honestly say it is sooooo worth it.

As your balloon control center moves back to its rightful place inside you, wondrous things begin to happen:

  • true fulfillment
  • attraction of people who really get you
  • increased self worth
  • ability to own your value

Now that you understand this balloon control center concept, ask yourself: Where does yours reside?

Does it stay securely put in your core center?

Does it mostly reside in your core but make trips external to you at times?

Or is it pretty much always outside of you?

When you answer this you’ll have a clear sense of how much work you need to start doing to bring your balloon control center back to where it belongs.

And then I hope you do actually do this work because the world needs you showing up fully as you. It needs your unique gifts.

You weren’t meant to be what other people or society told you you should you be, you are meant to be fully unapologetically and ecstatically YOU!

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is a Soul Clarity Coach, Akashic Record Alchemist, and owner of Soul Shine Healing, Coaching & Orgonite. Twyla geeks out about all the cool Soul level aspects that make each person a unique Divine being. She loves diving deep with people to help them uncover the Soul level blocks that are sabotaging them so they’re then able to take a stand for their Truth and create fulfilling lives congruent to it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session and connect with Twyla today!

Protecting or Disempowering?

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“We can’t tell your aunt that the pneumonia she had when she came to stay with us gave your grandpa a chest infection and me some kind of throat infection, it would make her feel bad.”

“I can’t tell grandma I’m going motorcycling with three of my girlfriends, she’d be too worried about me.”

BOTH of these things were said to me last week by my grandma and mother, respectively. And I wonder why I grew up hiding who I truly was and not being able to handle confrontation…

My Soul Gift is Divine Truth, but my family of origin did not make it easy for me to live it. Oh no, quite the opposite.

And I’m pretty sure this a codependent way of being too, although I haven’t picked up my Melody Beattie book for while now.

Growing up, this was a double-edged sword because not only did my mom try to shelter me from the reality of things – again: I’m Divine Truth! I see right through that crap. But anyways, lol, then I also learned that I in turn had to shelter the people in my life from the “harshness” of certain realities about things I did.

Can you say hello double life?

Because that’s what happens – we go underground so to speak. Things are hidden. Lies are told. The feeling of acceptance for who we truly are dwindles. And we become our fake selves with different people depending on the situation.

Ugh! I’ve been there. I hated it. That’s why I call my company Soul Shine – because my goal is to empower people to unapologetically shine as who they truly are.

Seeing these two incidents last week got me thinking about how freaking disempowering this “protection” is.

Protecting people from what? The ability to be strong and handle things in life when shit happens, which it always does?

It’s not just my family, otherwise there wouldn’t be codependents anonymous and numerous books written on the subject.

If we really squint when looking at this we can see that it does come from a “well-intentioned” place. Don’t want to hurt or upset anyone.

But when the result of “not hurting” people is robbing them of the opportunity to be functioning emotionally intelligent adults, mmm, I’d argue it’s not worth it in the big picture.

Why can’t we trust that people can handle their own emotions? Because it makes us uncomfortable? Because we don’t want to deal with their response?

Ah, there it is – the underlying truth. We don’t trust that we’ll be able to handle their reaction. We don’t trust that we’ll be ok no matter what their response.

But the truth is – we will. I didn’t have this deep knowing until after Sang (my fiance) passed and I experienced the worst abandonment I could imagine, and survived.

I don’t want other people to have to go through that to know the truth. I’d rather be able to share it – the fact that you will be ok no matter what.

That there is a deeper, bigger Divine part of you that exists and has a strength so massive you can’t even imagine it.

However, the fear of abandonment is very real and we run the risk of being ostracized when we do something we know won’t go over well with someone we love.

When we are truthful, we give the other person the opportunity to step up, process their own emotions, and accept us. Or not, it’s their choice.

Again, this can be so scary. The unknown, the uncertainty of will I or won’t I be accepted.

We don’t have to try to manipulate other people’s emotions and responses.

Most often being honest leads to growing closer, but sometimes it doesn’t.

In those cases, the big hairy question is – would you rather continue being fake you in a dynamic that doesn’t allow you to express yourself?

Or would you rather embrace who you truly are and branch out to find people who truly get and support you?

If you feel ready to bring more of the real you out into the world but also feel like a baby deer wobbling about trying to walk on new legs, reach out for support.

Apply for a Clarity Call with me or contact someone else to help guide you on this very important journey.

In love, light and truth,

Twyla K

Twyla K is a Soul Clarity Coach, Akashic Record Alchemist, and owner of Soul Shine Healing, Coaching & Orgonite. Twyla geeks out about all the cool Soul level aspects that make each person their own unique Divine being. She loves diving deep with people to help them uncover the Soul level blocks that are sabotaging them so they’re then able to take a stand for their Truth. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session and connect with Twyla today!

Crack is OK

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I’m talking about cracks in crystals and in you – I am not talking about any other type of crack, obviously.

Please direct your attention to the picture of my amazing new smokey quartz pyramid. Beautiful right?

Well… there was a time in my life when I would have said NO. Reject! Look at the cracks in it – hideous!

In fact, that is what I literally did in 2011 when I bought my first energetically charged crystal bracelet from a kind healer lady in Calgary.

It was the fall, Sang had come out the other side of chemo, radiation and surgery and things were finally looking up. I decided to treat myself to a beautiful crystal bracelet.

When I got the bracelet I carefully inspected every last inch of every last crystal and – gasp – found several cracks. What the ef! I paid good money for this bracelet and so it should be crack free!

Is what I thought at the time.

I even went so far as to contact the lady who made it and meet up with her to show her the imperfections because I wanted a completely perfect one.

Such a metaphor for my mindset and world view 7 years ago when external perfection was of utmost importance to me. Oh silly Twyla….

During our meeting the dear bracelet creator lady patiently explained to me that there are no bracelets that are completely crack free. They all have cracks.

Cracks are a part of life. None of us is crack free and many of us have so many cracks on the inside we try to make our external selves that we present to the world perfect so no one knows about our imperfections.

It’s painful to be seen for the cracked beings we really are, until….

We are able to embrace our cracks and do vulnerability!

Oh vulnerability, how I hated you until Sang died and I realized I could survive the worst of the worst of what life could throw at me. Try to break me, you won’t succeed.

Before I used to think I could and had to protect myself. WRONG. That’s not strength, that’s living in fear.

Strength is being real, being seen for every last crack you have – plus all the good stuff too 😊 And I’m not saying go show your cracks to every last person, that’s not the point.

The point is not to pretend you’re something that nobody is.

That was confusing, let’s try that again: The point is to move from your fantasy illusory world where “perfect” people exist (and is what you strive for) into actual reality where nobody is perfect.

Stop lying to yourself.

Let go of the ridiculous crack free standards you hold for yourself.

Embrace your cracks – they make you YOU.

Just like my new beautiful smokey quartz crystal pyramid – you can still see the amazing unique rainbow refractions at the same time as you see the cracks. The cracks don’t negate the beauty.

Need help bringing in more self-love and acceptance? A Soul Blueprint clearing can really support you in understanding and loving your cracks.

Click on This Link to apply for a Clarity Call and let’s talk about what you’ve got going on and what beautiful support would look like for you 💖

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching & Orgonite. She’s a Soul Clarity Coach who offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

How to Love Every Last Part of Yourself

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If you think everyone else is rainbows and lollypops through and through and you’re the only one who has dark ugly spots – you are dead wrong.

For years I tried so hard to appear perfect externally, but internally felt so empty and misunderstood. Because I wasn’t showing my true self, I was showing the person I thought other people wanted me to be.

I judged myself very harshly and of course karmically chose to incarnate into a highly critical family to embed and uphold this pattern for me, yay…..

But how does this all relate to the weird picture at the top of this post?

Well, as many of you are aware, I’m completely obsessed and in love with making orgonite everything right now.

My latest pieces are pendants, and it was this above pictured recent FAIL that helped me understand self love better.

You see, the pendant in the picture above turned out tragically… It’s all bumpy, mis-shapen, and worst of all – it will not come out of the mold. Try and pry and yank as  I might, it is not going anywhere.

It’s going to be a part of that mold forever. I have to see it and acknowledge it every time I make more pendants.

And if we’re completely honest with ourselves – our bumpy mis-shapen aspects aren’t going anywhere either.

But to show them to others – gasp – unthinkable! Death! Dying! Horribleness!

It’s true. There is a part of our brains that is wired to make us want to fit in.

I believe this all stems from a primal survival instinct, a very real fear that if we don’t fit in the with the tribe we will be ostracized and literally left by ourselves to die.

Obviously this is no longer a real and present danger. We no longer depend on our tribes in such an extreme way. But does our lizard brain know this? Nope.

So we need to re-wire that part of our brains, and the sooner the better.

This is all part of the giant and complete move from fear to love. From fearing being vulnerable to loving every part of ourselves and being able to show and embrace them.

A very simple activity you can do whenever you notice self criticism pop up is to say to yourself, “I love and accept _____ (whatever you were criticizing)”.

This requires repetition, patience, and determination.

Another activity I love is facing the fear head on.

Set the intention to reveal one of the pieces of yourself that you currently judge about yourself to someone close to you.

It can seem terrifying at first, but after you do it and see that the world doesn’t end and their reaction is one of acceptance (this is why you need to choose the person you share with wisely) – you’ve just taken a step towards:

  1. Greater self love
  2. Embracing the power of vulnerability
  3. Being able to do it again

Sometimes we have big subconscious blocks to loving ourselves and we’re stuck in some pretty deep patterns that have us rolling in misery.

And the messed up part is that we’re totally unaware of what they are, so we keep on spinning…

Getting off this hamster wheel of doom can require the help of someone outside yourself, someone objective, someone with the skills to identify and clear those absolutely annoying patterns. Someone like me!

Definitely do work with the above activities to re-pattern your thinking so you can love every piece of yourself.

Then if you still find there are areas you just can’t seem to budge, connect with me. We can talk about what transformation is possible for you.

Let’s get back to my pendant mess now.

By sharing publicly my embarrassing mess of a pendant fail, I’m fully admitting and showing that I am not perfect. I don’t get things right 100% of the time.

And I’m ok with it.

Would I have done this 10 years ago? No way. But I can do it now.

So what if I made a crappy pendant, that doesn’t change the amazing Divine eternal being I am.

My wish for you is that you become fully ok with and love every last part of you. Because you are a beautiful Divine eternal being.

Sometimes we need to be reminded of that 💛

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Why Numbing Keeps You SOUL Disconnected

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There are SO many reasons why you may not be living your Soul truth and also may be totally unaware of it.

Society has a LOT of coping mechanisms embedded that enable us to distract ourselves, numb ourselves, lie to ourselves, and otherwise avoid dealing with the painful reality that we’re not happy deep down at Soul level where it really counts.

Let’s look at a big one….

This week we’ll look at the super obvious one that is great for immediate numbing but the next day… You feel crappy again: alcohol and food in the over-eating capacity.

The thing with this is that when you numb the uncomfortable feelings, you also dull your ability to connect to the happy sensations, emotions, and your Soul Truth.

It’s not pretty. And let’s not forget that alcohol is a depressant. I realized this when I was grieving and I thought I’d have a nice glass of wine to make me feel better while watching a movie. Quite the opposite happened, lol.

I guess it didn’t help that I chose a movie about a little boy whose dad abandoned him (not sure what I was thinking there – oh wait – now I remember! It was a Gerard Butler movie…) By the end of the movie I was sobbing and internally, energetically I could literally feel the heaviness and sadness. It wasn’t good. After that it was no drink-o while grieving-o for me.

The lesson there and what I embraced going forward was allowing myself to feel all the real emotions. Grief needs to be felt to be processed. All emotions just want to come up and alert us to things. And then I was able to stay connected to my Soul Truth too.

And for the record – I am not opposed to alcohol 😄 I’ve just found that moderation is the key to enjoyment. If only I could have imparted that wisdom to early 20s Twyla…

Any which way, our emotions are one of our greatest allies and inner compass components.

Recently I’ve been noticing that I get an immediate emotional reaction to things that aren’t Soul aligned for me. Hello dear Soul Truth indicator! It’s a very subtle sense of aversion and I know from experience now that this is gold for me. If listen to it I will stay on a beautiful Soul aligned and abundant path.

You can’t notice that if you’re disconnected from your feelings!

Through my personal and spiritual growth journey I’ve gotten to this fine tuned feeling noticing place, but in the beginning of it I needed to reconnect to feeling anything. Even the big “obvious” emotions.

For a good 2 or so decades of my life I’d actually shut down my emotions completely because not feeling anything made me feel strong and invulnerable.

Granted this was a necessary coping mechanism to get through some brutal early childhood shit.

Oh so many layers….

But back to alcohol and over eating.

If you feel that numbing yourself in these ways is currently one of your coping mechanisms, I invite you to ask yourself, “What is it I’m trying to run away from or avoid?”

It could be a work situation, an uncomfortable emotion, a relationship problem you can’t figure out how to fix, or something much deeper…. Really sit with the above question and be prepared to be brutally honest with yourself. If you’re ready.

Sometimes the reality is that we simply are not ready, and that’s perfectly ok.

But if you do feel ready then know that doing this work will lead to self-realization, personal growth and spiritual growth. And ultimately – once you’ve gone through the feelings and been able to process things – a much more Soul aligned life where you are living your Truth and loving it.

During this time it can be really beautiful and helpful to have a guide, someone who has walked the path and come out the other side shining. Someone like… ME!

So if you’d like to talk more about this, I invite you to click on the link below and sign up for a Clarity Call with me. I’d love to talk with you!

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people uncover what’s blocking them, what they truly want and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Transformation Takes Time

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May is a month of conflicting emotions for me, and that’s ok. May 2nd is my wedding anniversary – it was #3 this year, thank you, thank you very much. And May 16th is the day Sang passed. Even though it’s been 6 years now, I still find myself being overwhelmed by sadness and emotion at this time of year. It’s a time that I reflect back on who I was and who I am now, because supporting Sang through his battle with cancer then having him pass and being forced to rebuild my life has me in a very different place than I was before he got sick. That’s the topic of this post – honestly comparing me back then to the person I am and the life I’ve created now.

Life Before Death

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It was around 3 in the morning when Sang and I met for the first time, in this lifetime. The place: an industrial warehouse somewhere in SE Calgary that had been transformed into a magical dance party event called Motion Notion. The year: 2000.As was customary at such all night dance parties, people hugged upon first meeting. And so Sang and I hugged and in that moment I just knew. There was a very deep recognition and connection…

Over the next 4 years we became really great friends, and then I moved to Taiwan. Upon my return Sang and I began dating, then got engaged in Costa Rica, bought a house together and moved in. I thought my life was on a track that wouldn’t change for many many years. But then 10 months later… cancer hit.

Up until that point I didn’t know what I didn’t know about healing myself, spirituality, growing spiritually, setting boundaries, knowing myself, who I really was, personal power, real peace. It was a pretty hefty list. I thought my life was fine.

That being said, I was acutely aware that I had some major issues. Having an abusive alcoholic real dad then recovered alcoholic step dad and codependent mother left me with very unhealthy relationship skills, little trust in myself and a lot of fear.

When Sang and I met we were young and cool, lol, but then becoming adults and having a grown up relationship caused my issues to come to light. But I didn’t have the tools to deal with them, so I became a workaholic to avoid them.

Looking back, I can also see that because I didn’t know who I was, I went along with what others said or did. Which ultimately left me feeling crappy and unfulfilled.

All this began to change slowly but surely when Sang got sick and I was stretched to my limit working FT and being his caregiver. I became aware of relationships that hugely needed revamping and realized I needed to find the truth inside me to guide me if I was going to survive.

Making life and death decisions and caring for someone terminally ill, I had to be sure that I would not regret anything I did – because I knew I’d only get one chance at it.

So I threw myself into caring fro Sang completely, but in the process I lost sight of who I was even more.

When Sang passed, I was a shell of a person. Stronger in some ways but left with a sense of being completely lost in life.

Life After Death

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Life for me after Sang died ended as I’d previously known it. So much of what had made up my identity was gone in an instant. Where I thought my life was headed – gone.

Looking back from where I am now – it took me 6 years to get to a place where I can say I know myself at a deep level and am WAY more living my truth.

A huge part of this was my healing and spiritual journey. I can’t even tell you how much therapy and many different kinds of healing sessions I’ve had over the last 7 years. And this from a lady who back in 2010 thought Body Talk was woo woo!

My how things have changed… For the better!

After I got certified in Soul Realignment Level 1 in 2013 and I noticed my old inability to trust issue coming up in my new relationship and BLAM! I did an Akashic Record reading and clearing for myself and resolved that shit. Now I have a marriage where I actually feel safe and totally trust my husband, which was something I never had with a partner before.

I now had the tools to make positive changes happen and keep myself growing in the right direction, the direction of the person I know I wanted to become.

I also discovered that I enjoyed being a part of people’s transformations through my Akashic Record sessions WAY more than I liked instructional design and technical writing. But obviously I couldn’t just quit my day job, things needed to grow organically.

By far my biggest personal and spiritual growth spurts happened when I worked with coaches and mentors. And I am so grateful to each and every one of them.

Working with a life coach in 2012 helped me begin to set healthy boundaries, start healing from codependence, and connect to my own personal compass for what is right for me. It was with her that I also began making the huge shift from the fear vibration to love vibration.

In 2015 I worked with a business mentor and was able to then get myself out there more. Leaving the psychic closet took a lot of courage because initially I had a lot of self judgment. In 2017 I worked with an intuitive business coach who guided me into even bigger business territory. And now currently I’m working with an amazing coach who has helped me massively both personally and in my business.

What I see in all this is that my transformation took time and my transformation was a team effort. There are beautiful Souls out there who we are destined to join paths with and when we’re in relationship with them our life takes beautiful leaps forward. There was NO way I could have handled all of these shifts at once or navigated them by myself.

Heck, the shifts I’m going through right now almost make me want to say uncle and take a break from all this growth!

But no. I’m committed to this path. I’ve come so far and there truly is no going back. I can honestly say the last 7 years have been the hardest of my life and the most rewarding. I’m constantly pushed and pushing myself to new levels.

I love my current coach because she guides me based on who I am at Soul level, not from some formulaic strategy that’s supposed to work for everyone. I’m not everyone, clearly. And that’s how I see people too – as unique Souls who can shine happier and brighter when they honor their truth and live in line with what’s true for them.

In a letter Sang wrote to me before his neck dissection surgery when he thought he was going to die, he said that what would make him most happy would be to see me doing what made me happy.

I know he’s near me and helping me still and I am so grateful for that. And I’m pretty sure he’s damn happy because I definitely am.

In Love and Light,
Twyla K
Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing, Coaching & Orgonite. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who know they need to make some changes so they can start doing life their way figure out what’s blocking them and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Manifesting & the Detachment Paradox Solved

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Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I can tell the most frustrating aspect of manifesting is detachment.

You’re telling me that I’m supposed to want to manifest something, but then not care if I manifest it?

That seems like one big fat paradox and loads of crap to me.

This is how some people feel about manifesting. However, while pondering it last evening in relation to my upcoming meeting with a potential future purveyor of my orgonite pyramids,  some truths became very evident.

The reason it is so important to completely detach from the “what” of what the object of your manifesting might look like is this: In doing so you are closing yourself off to the potential of something better, and your neediness actually repels the object of your desire.

Is there any way to know what that something better may look like from your current vantage point? NO. So don’t even try.

Let’s break this down further and look at all the benefits of practicing detachment in manifesting.

  • Number 1: Detachment does not mean you don’t care. Care up a storm! But care about the end result, not the middle stuff. I will do my best and try my best and prepare for my upcoming meeting with this business owner to the best of my abilities. I care a ton about this meeting. But if it doesn’t pan out… well ok I will feel a little gutted probably, but I’ll also be able to pull myself back together and keep on keeping on.
  • Number 2: If your first attempt doesn’t pan out, then YAY! You’ve got everything prepared to do it again PLUS you’ve likely learned a few things about what not to do next time and you’re no longer green in the gills.Note: Doing Number 2 means that you have to re-frame what is seen by typical people as “failure”. There’s no such thing as failure, just many learning lessons of what not to do. I think some famous person said something similar to that sometime in the past.
  • Number 3: If you’ve embraced Number 1 and Number 2 you will act as calm as a cucumber when you go into “the situation” (I use quotation marks because “the situation” will differ but feel equally as immensely important for everyone). You will not give off that icky gicky “I need this or I will literally die” vibe. That’s not attractive. Nobody likes that. And energetically it’s like manifesting repellent.

I know, I know, I’ve made it sound intellectually very easy to embrace detachment and I fully acknowledge that living and doing it is a whole ‘nother thing. BUT…

If you do start to embrace detachment while manifesting then little by little it will get easier.

Just like getting back to running after 2 months off was painful and my pathetic muscle strength and cardio was embarrassing to myself. But after 3 weeks, oh the glorious 3 week mark! The endorphins were flowing once again and my muscles and cardio were no longer pathetic.

I’m not saying that after 3 weeks of practicing detachment in manifesting you will be a master and love every minute of it. I am saying that you will get more in the flow, neuropathways will begin to form that will begin to make things easier.

Allow that dangling carrot to motivate you. As well as the carrot of manifesting ultimately being more successful and rewarding.

And remember – no matter what happens, either way you will be ok. Take a deep breath and repeat that to yourself several times.

Perhaps you have already tried detachment in manifesting. Any interesting results to share? Comment below!

Love and Light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

How to Talk Your Ego Out of a Tantrum

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Oh yes ego – you would love it if I never changed, never ventured out into “scary” new territory, and just played it safe till I died.

But I’m not wired that way. Not even close.

My life has been one of jumping into new situations and countries and levels of consciousness.

Very recently I signed up for and began studying Soul Realignment Level 3. My teacher Andrrea Hess calls it the super geeky ninja level Akashic Record reading level!

It’s been 4 years since I completed Soul Realignment Level 2, mind you, I did complete the Soul Manifesting Blueprint and Reading the Future in the Akashic Records programs since then too…

But back to the main point – it’s been 4 years since I did Level 2! I never felt like I even wanted to do Level 3 at all ever, lol.

And then…. I guess I finally reached the point where I yearned for more in depth knowledge. I wanted to go deeper. How does the Soul Blueprint exactly work? What other Master Guides are available to me? What deeper levels of Soul work can I offer my clients?

The curiosity and desire was there!

This is a key important piece – if you have the desire and you can tell it comes from a Soul inspired place, that is gold. That means you’re meant for it.

However, when I started working through the Level 3 lessons, that’s when my ego started freaking the ef out.

This happened when I did Level 1 and when I did Level 2, so now I’m onto it. And even though these ego tantrums do distract me and make it hard to push on, just the knowing helps a lot.

Piece 1 is the enthusiastic desire for the change or learning, then piece 2 is the ego freaking out.

So my questions for you are:

  • Do you currently know or can you identify your ego’s “defense” / distraction tactics?
  • What can you do to ease your ego through the transition so you can keep moving forward?

For me, my ego goes into hyper skeptic and critic mode. It finds a way to criticize everything about the new content I’m learning and then slaps on a thick layer of doubt about its validity.

My ego would love it if I threw all the lessons in the trash and never looked at them again.

A brilliant life coach I worked with years ago taught me that a way to deal with ego tantrums is to placate it. Tell your ego that it will be ok. You’re just going to try this out and see what happens.

This is piece 3 on the path of growth into new territory – getting your ego on board for the ride.

There’s no need to get healing work done for blocks, force your way forward, or spin off into trying to fix or deal with the fears.

Gentleness is the best tactic.

Tell your ego that you’ve done this before. You’ve made leaps in learning and big changes and yes they were new and scary but now they’re normal. Just like this present newness will in turn become normal too.

Cheers to big growth!

Love and light,

Twyla K

Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!

Why Discernment is SO Important for Soul Inspired Growth

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When you expand into new ways of being you best believe there are going to be growing pains and you best be ready for them.

Remember being a teenager and hitting a growth spurt? I don’t either, but I know it happened 😁

During that time, our physical bodies were literally expanding, pushing never before pushed limits.

That’s what’s happening for you energetically when you go through a growth phase too.

You are pushing new limits and expanding into new territory. But the difference between the two is that during your current growth phases you have the choice NOT to grow.

We always have a choice.

So the key – granted you do want to grow – is to discern what is a new choice that will move you forward vs what would be the same old choice that would keep you where you’re at.

Just because a new opportunity arises does NOT mean it’s a new choice. Be very careful to discern when a new opportunity is actually a choice you’ve already been making.

When you’re able to discern that and to see that the particular opportunity will actually keep you stuck in the same loop – it’s time to make a new choice!

Saying No to an opportunity can seem like the exact wrong thing to do, but I’m telling you – it’s quite the opposite when it comes to doing Soul inspired growth.

Two questions to ask yourself to help you discern whether to be a Heck Yes or a Big No to an opportunity are:

  1. Does this opportunity A: uphold the exciting energy of who I’m becoming, or B: does it have the same energy of who I was before?
  2. Does this opportunity A: feel expansive and aligned to who I know I am at Soul level, or does it B: feel contracted and part of old habit patterns that I no longer want to be in?
If you answer Yes to part A in both questions then YAY – move forward with that sh!t and grow and glow!

If you answered Yes to part B of either of them then… You know what you gotta do – suck it up and say No to the opportunity.

I hope you’ve found this helpful and I’d love to hear your feedback on it 💛✨

And if you’re having trouble discerning the old from the new or want support in making Soul aligned choices – email me! I can help 😊
Love and Light,
Twyla K
Twyla K is the owner of Soul Shine Healing & Coaching. She offers Clarity Sessions to help people who are tired of feeling stuck uncover what they truly want, what’s blocking them, and what they can do about it. Click Here to apply for a Clarity Session today!